Little Emma Stories

September 17, 2009


When I picked Emma up from school today she told me that her friend Emmy had invited her to her sister's birthday party...who I believe is in 4th grade.  I told her that we did not get an invitation and that Emmy's sister is an older girl.  Emma came home and told Daddy that she was going to this party as well. He told her the same thing I told her.  


So the next morning (September 18, 2009), Emma woke up and excited because she was expecting to go to the party.  When I told her that we did not have an invitation and we did not know how to get there, her beautiful brown eyes got really big and they filled with tears.  She told me in a whimpering voice that we could get a map on the "cumputur".  I let her get dressed and told her we would talk a about it over breakfast.  As I began to explain that Emmy's sister was older and that she would have older friends there, Emma began to tear up again.  It was not a mad cry but a sad one. :(  She said "Mom, it will be so fun, I want to go."  So, over breakfast, I had to have the "we go to some parties and have fun, but we do not go to every party" talk...which I know I will have many more times throughout her life (on many different levels).  I reminded her that we have a birthday party next weekend for her friend Lexi and her sister Lily.  She seemed ok with this explanation.  As we drove to school, I held her hand (yes, that is a bit difficult since she sits right behind me...but it made her feel better, so a mama does what she has to do- right!!).  After a while the whole thing came up again, so I gave her a strategy...I told her that when Emmy talks about it, she needed to say "no thank you, I have a different party to go to."  Yes, the other party is the next weekend, but when you are 4 that detail does not matter in the big picture.  She seemed ok with that and I told her to wear her smile at school.  


When I picked her up she was all smiles and did not mention the incident at all.  It seemed to have blown over.  She is such a social little bee.  She loves to be around other people...which I love about her.  We just have to make sure that we actually know the person and have a true invitation.  :) :)